The people, you spend your time with, make a profound impact on your productivity, motivation and the pace you approach new accomplishments with. The people who surround you can either make you or break you. Therefore, it’s important to choose wisely who to hang out with.
As important as it is to learn how to deal with different kinds of people, truly toxic people will never be worth your time and energy and they take a lot of each. Here are some different type of people you should stay away from at all costs so that you don’t become one yourself.
More specifically, people with too many "social masks". Now, obviously, all of us are social chameleons to some degree and have to wear a certain “social mask” when needed be. But that’s not what I’m talking about here. I’m talking about the people who always go along with the crowd.
You know, their opinions, principles, and behaviors change depending on the company they are in. For example, they act rude when in a company of rude people, are kind when surrounded with kind people, etc.
They have lost a sense of their “self” a long time ago or maybe haven’t ever found it. Whatever the reason may be, this kind of person can’t be trustworthy and reliable since they can’t rely on their own opinions and principles themselves so what do you expect from them?
The one with inflated ego. A person who not only thinks but firmly believes that they are in the right, forcing their opinion on you. And no matter what little knowledge they may possess about a particular topic, they expect you to simply listen and believe everything they say without questioning any of it.
Needless to say, this kind of person will bring out nothing but frustration in you, so if you truly value your time and energy, avoid them whenever possible.
The one who unhealthily obsessed with gossiping
Gossiping isn’t just their hobby; it’s their lifestyle. Obviously all of us gossip from time to time, but the kind of gossiping I’m referring to is the one during which two people start trashing another person behind their back. Then when they are done criticising them, they move on to someone else and so it keeps going.
If you’ll ever have the misfortune of meeting this type of person(and I’m sure that you will someday if you haven’t already), don’t get involved in a conversation if possible. But if you absolutely have to, say something nice about the person not present there; that will show the gossip-lover(s) that you are not going to play by their rules.
I’m sure you’ve met this type at least once in your life. Their favorite topic of discussion? Themselves and only themselves. They are thrilled when you want to know more about them by asking questions but don’t expect to get any from them in return. And even if you start talking about yourself, you’ll immediately notice how bored they quickly become. After all, the conversation now revolves around you, not them. And who wants that, right? Not them, certainly.
These people don’t understand the concept of reciprocity and how the conversations work. Or they may do but still prefer to play by their rules. So if you truly treasure your time, be wise and don’t waste it on them.
People who lift themselves up by bringing others down
You know the type. A person who tries to make themselves feel better at the expense of tainting a reputation of someone else. A person who finds their worth only after they unjustly insult or criticise someone.
This type of people are usually filled with resentment or envy within and feeding on hatred is their favorite pastime. And needless to say, avoiding such people is one of the best things you can do in life.