Which is more important in a relationship: chemistry or compatibility? Or are they equally important? Do men and women have different standards for chemistry and compatibility?
Love is more than just a feeling and compatibility is more than just liking the same things or having similar things in common. Love is something that you cultivate and grow. It's a feeling and emotion but it is also taking action an ever-changing process. And compatibility is necessary to help it grow and evolve.
Most women will give men a chance (or two or three or more than that), The majority of women in my practice are interested in emotional and intellectual compatibility first and physical compatibility/chemistry second.
The men usually judge a woman’s date-ability by how physically attracted they feel on the first date. If they feel the chemistry, there is a second date. If not then next.
People can be very compatible with one another without having much chemistry. Many people even think that compatibility is much more important for the long-term success of a relationship than chemistry. Chemistry is something that can develop, but your compatibility with someone will be tougher to change.
Relationship compatibility exists, first and foremost, when a couple relates to equality and respect. It's important for couples to have fun together and really enjoy the time they spend together. Relationships thrive when two people share companionship and activities.
Chemistry is without question the most important thing in a relationship. One could argue that things like trust, respect, and mutual understanding are more important, but I beg to differ. You can learn to be respectful, you can learn to understand someone, and it takes time for someone to earn your trust.
Be mindful that love and compatibility are very different. You can love someone with your whole heart, but that doesn’t mean you are compatible or that the relationship will work.