It’s normal to have arguments between family members. No matter how much we love each other, we all have differences. However, a healthy and loving family knows how to handle these conflicts and differences with trust, respect, and open-mindedness but Toxic families are rife with patterns of abuse, discrimination, manipulation, verbal violence, etc. Often, family members enable someone’s narcissism or even psychopathic behavior. This could be the main reason for instability at home.
Tantrums, anxiety, hiding real emotions, and low self-esteem. Sadly, some parents manage to pass down all of these negative qualities to their kids. Their egoism and indifference toward their children’s feelings make a huge impact on them in their childhood. As a result, kids start to criticize themselves, feel helpless and have problems in their social lives.
Here are some signs that you may have grown up in a toxic environment.
You’re scared of manipulation.
It happens rather often that toxic families use manipulation to control other family members. On a daily basis, this behavior is not normal and turns into emotional abuse. This can make you feel like you trust the other people around you less and prevent you from having relationships. Feeling constantly manipulated by your family can also result in avoidance behavior.
You feel controlled or powerless.
If your family members are consistently exerting their control over you and your daily decisions, especially to the point where you feel powerless to make decisions for yourself, you are likely dealing with a toxic family dynamic. Controlling behavior can manifest itself in surveillance, not allowing you to have strong relationships outside of the family, controlling your movement, and more.
You've been (or continue to be) infantilized.
Similarly, if you're constantly told you aren't mature enough, intelligent enough, or competent enough to control aspects of your own life and if decisions are made for you as a result. you're being infantilized. This is a tell-tale sign of a toxic family dynamic and is another way for controlling personalities to exert power over you.
You have difficulties with social interactions and trusting others.
When someone gets raised in a tense atmosphere, around manipulations and other mental abuse, it leaves its mark on this person. Some parents might not have been able to provide their child with the needed support, and in another scenario, someone might live in a family where they feel they always need to be on guard. Later it will become tough to shake the feeling that you constantly have to be in this state. In the end, you can develop difficulties with trusting other people and opening up to them.
Attachment problems are hard. By constantly seeing and experiencing physical and emotional abuse, mistreatment, and neglect, they form their own picture of relationships. These people might not understand what a caring and healthy connection between people looks like. They are always subconsciously waiting for everyone around them to either overreact, be demanding, blame them for something, or let them down.