We are used to saying yes to please others, It's not healthy so learn how to confidently say no to someone without feeling bad about it. You might wonder, how do you say no and not feel bad about it? To answer that, you must first understand why people feel bad turning someone down. Saying no may feel aggressive like you're rejecting the person. Most people do not want to be an aggressor.

If people do say no, they usually do it in ineffective ways that come with an excuse but the art of saying ‘no’ can be a superpower. So here are some ways to say No.


If you realize you have neither the desire nor the bandwidth to help, and, therefore, need to turn down the request, be honest and upfront about your reasons, To limit frustration, be candid about why you’re saying no. If you’re challenged, stay steady, clear, and kind.  

If you want to say no, be firm and direct. Use phrases such as “Thanks for coming to me but I’m afraid it’s not convenient right now” or “I’m sorry but I can’t help this evening.” Try to be strong in your body language and don’t over-apologize. Remember, you’re not asking permission to say no.

Don't beat around the bush or offer weak excuses or hem and haw. This only provides an opening for the other person. Don't delay or stall either. Provide a brief explanation if you feel you need to; however, don't feel compelled. The less said the better.

If you know what you're willing to do or what would mean you're going too far. If you know your boundaries, then you won't have to search for your boundaries in the middle of a stressful situation.

Be clear and honest with yourself about what you truly want. Get to know yourself better and examine what you really want from life.